I wake up at 6am.
Get me & my son ready.
Off to work at 6.50am.
Drop my son at nursery by 7.30am.
Head to office to reach by 8.30am.
Have lunch at 1.00pm.
Off to fetch my son at 5.30pm.
Be at nursery at 7.30pm.
Arrive home at 7.45pm.
Usrah or meeting usually starts at 9.00pm.
11.30pm head for home.
12.00pm arrive and go to bed.
Now to add some constraints to calculate it precisely,
1. My wife is a doctor. Now in O&G. She does on call EAD. That is every alternate day. In time, she works on Monday 7am to 7pm. Then on Tuesday she’ll be on call 7am to 7pm Wednesday. And that Wednesday, consider she’s not at home as she’ll be sleeping post call to prepare for Thursday. And she’ll be on call again Friday. That means, in a week, my wife will be at home during the night for only 3 nights.
2. Nursery don’ t operate for overnight stay.
3. Parents and in-laws live >250km away.
4. My son is 11 months old. He drinks milk every 2 hours or so. He can’t eat like adult nor drink the usual milk. It has to be infant milk. So must bring hot water and warm water with milk powder and bottles accordingly if going out.
So, continue the calulation with the said constraints,
I baby sit my son 4 nights in a week alone by myself.
I will wake up 2 times every night when I baby sit him. So minus 30 minutes of my night sleep.
Weekends when my wife is on call, I baby sit my son too, alone.
When going out, the said set for my son shall be prepared. Not forgetting, I live on the 4th floor and he is 11kg and no lifts.
So, in the end, the calculations give us:
2 hours driving to work.
8 hours of work.
2 hours driving home.
20 minutes drive to usrah/meeting.
2-1/2 hours usrah/meeting(lucky if its that short)
20 minutes driving home
5-1/2 hours sleep.
15-1/6 hours awake driving, working, tarbiyah/dakwah(note how short you have for tarbiyyah and dakwah!!).
5-1/2 hours sleep.
Left with 3-1/3 hours for spending time with son & wife or go to shop or do housechores. Don’t forget, you can’t just leave your house get messier day in day out and your wife is just much busier and tiring with work than you are.
1. Be fit if your wife is a doctor.
2. Think and weigh before settling down anywhere.
3. You can’t move as fast as other husband-of-8-to-5-wife.
4. Less time for reading.
5. Missing a lot of jamaah prayer at the masjid.
6. Should think of moving out of KL or at least move closer to your office.